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Navigating Grief and Loss: the ball, the box and the button

Writer: Becca FinamoreBecca Finamore

Grief is a complex journey that meanders through the realms of our hearts and minds, leaving an indelible mark on our souls. It is a narrative with no fixed plot, no defined beginning or end, but rather a continuous process where emotions ebb and flow like the tides. In understanding the dynamics of grief, we can employ metaphors to grasp its essence, much like that of the ball, the box and the button.


The Ball in the Box:


Imagine a ball confined within a box, ricocheting against its walls in a seemingly chaotic dance. This ball represents our mood as we move through a day in the life. At times, we move with frenetic energy, embodying the raw intensity of our emotions. Other times, we slow our pace, mirroring moments of contemplation or fleeting peace. As the ball continues its journey within the confines of the box, we begin to realize that grief, much like the ball, is in constant motion, never truly static. that bounds around a box, occasionally pushed by a button to elicit waves of sorrow and longing.


The Button of Grief:


Within this metaphorical construct lies the button of grief—a trigger that, when pressed, unleashes a torrent of emotions. This button serves as a conduit for our pain, allowing us to acknowledge, process, and ultimately release the depths of our sorrow. Pushing this button can be both cathartic and agonizing, as it forces us to confront the enormity of our loss. Yet, with each press of the button, we inch closer to acceptance, gradually unraveling the tangled threads of grief that bind us.


The Growing Box:


As days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and months into years, the box that encapsulates our grief grows in size. It expands with our experiences, memories, and the passage of time, accommodating the complexities of our emotional landscape. The walls of this box become a testament to our resilience, bearing the marks of our pain and healing. Despite the expansion of the box, the button remains ever-present, a constant reminder that grief, though evolving, never truly dissipates.


ball bounding in a blue box


Growth Amidst Grief:


Grief, it is often said, never truly leaves us. Its presence lingers, sometimes as a faint echo, at other times as a deafening roar. However, as we navigate the ups and downs of the grief process, we begin to grow around it, integrating it into the fabric of our being. Like a tree that weathers storms yet continues to thrive, we too learn to coexist with our grief, finding solace in the beauty that arises from our pain.


In the grand tapestry of life, grief is but one thread, albeit a poignant and profound one. It shapes us, molds us, and teaches us the depths of our capacity for love and loss. The ball, the box, and the button metaphors offer us a glimpse into the long lasting nature of grief, reminding us that healing is not about erasing the pain but rather embracing it as a part of our narrative.


As we journey through the labyrinth of grief, may we find comfort in the knowledge that we are not alone, that our experiences, though unique, are shared by many who walk alongside us. Let us honor our grief, our joys, and our sorrows, for they are the colors that paint the canvas of our lives with richness and depth.


Through the ball, the box, and the button, we come to understand that grief is not an endpoint but a transformative process. If you or someone you know is struggling with grief and loss, please don't hesitate to reach out.

 
 
 

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